Valentine’s Day is less than a week away, and I’m not sure what to get for my girlfriend.
Let me clarify that…I have ideas as to what to get her, but she keeps insisting that Valentine’s Day is no big deal and I shouldn’t bother doing anything special.
That’s a trap, right? She’s testing me? She’s saying she doesn’t want anything, but she really wants something great, correct?
Or maybe she really does like to keep it low key on the 14th. What if I get her something, she doesn’t get me anything, and then gets mad because she told me to keep it simple?
I am utterly and totally confused. I really love her, and this is our first Valentine’s Day together, so I cannot blow it. Please advise.
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You came to the right place for advice on this one, my friend. The Hopeless Romantic in me is going to field your question and set you straight.
You know your girlfriend better than I, but does any man really ever know what’s going on in the mind of any woman?
Were I to hazard a guess, I’d say that your special girl has PTVDD… Post Traumatic Valentine’s Day Disorder. A previous boyfriend or boyfriends probably did not deliver on February 14th and she has become jaded about the Holiday. My guess is that she has put up the wall of extremely lowered expectations so that she is never hurt again when a significant other delivers a dud on the day meant for lovers.
I advise you to make Cupid proud. Pull out all the stops. Go overboard. Spoil her. Make her burst into tears because you make a spectacle of how much you love her. Like you said, this is your first Valentine’s Day together, and you want to sweep her off her feet and have a story to tell friends, family, and maybe even your children for years to come.
Believe me when I say this advice works. I used this very tactic on my first Valentine’s Day with someone very important to me. She had admitted that she hated the Holiday because her previous boyfriend never got her anything.
I went all out, bought her gifts that showed her how well I knew her, and I even wrote her a very romantic poem. If she wasn’t already in love with me, she certainly was after that Valentine’s Day. It was the best Valentine’s Day I’ve ever had because I knew that I had won the heart of the girl of my dreams.
It’s been my experience that the mouth says one thing, while the heart craves something else entirely. I believe that your girlfriend wants you to treat her like a princess, and I advise you to do so.
Follow your heart, and all will be well. And if you have it in you, I strongly advise that you write her something romantic. She’ll never forget the words you put down on paper telling her how amazing she is…