I Advise You To Stop Trying To Crack The Code

BlutoDear Modern Philosopher,

I am very frustrated and don’t know where else to turn.  You seem like a very wise man, and that toga makes you look like Plato or Aristotle, so I thought that you might be able to help with my quandary.

The thing is, I just don’t get people.  I’ve tried so hard to understand them, to discover what makes them act the way they do, and how to act around them so as to limit the amount of stress and discomfort in every encounter.

No matter how hard I try, though, I just can’t seem to get it right.  My kids think I’m some clueless old fart, who could never comprehend how things are in their world.  My wife is constantly telling me that I don’t understand women.  My friends tell me I’m nuts for even thinking that I could figure out everyone else.  My coworkers seem to change their moods and thought process on a whim, so work is probably the most confusing place of all.

Are my buddies right?  Am I pursuing an unattainable goal?  Will people always be a great mystery to me?

Guy Who Can Solve The Sunday Times Crossword, But Can’t Figure Out People

codeDear Crossword Guy,

I’m very impressed with your ability to solve the Sunday crossword, but even more so by your desire to better understand the people around you.  Kudos for the latter.

The thing is, I don’t think anyone ever truly understands the rest of the world.  In fact, it’s my theory that selfish and oblivious people are the happiest because they don’t even try to figure out what makes the rest of the world tick.

I advise you to stop trying to crack the code.

I’m not saying to be selfish or oblivious, but stop going above and beyond the call of duty.  Figure out just enough so you can navigate your day in relative safety and with minimal headaches, but stop wasting time trying to solve all those puzzles.

Humans are the ultimate Enigma machines, and look at how many people it took to crack that code during World War II.

You’re a good man for trying, but no one is giving out medals for the war you’re fighting.  Surrender to the idea that you’ll never understand other people, and I’m certain your stress levels will return to the safe zone.

Now get to work on that crossword!


About Austin

Native New Yorker who's fled to the quiet life in Maine. I write movies, root for the Yankees, and shovel lots of snow.
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20 Responses to I Advise You To Stop Trying To Crack The Code

  1. Austin, I am reminded of a story about a strange cult that made a point of making their minds completely blank. …Through meditation, yoga, or something. Their purpose was based on the Biblical admonition, “In the hour that ye think not, the Son of Man cometh.” Therefore clearing the mind–and the path to heaven. That’s my long-winded advice to “Crossword Guy.” Clear the clutter.

    • Austin says:

      Hopefully, he sees your comment and give your advice a shot. As En Vogue once sang, “Free your mind, and the rest will follow.” 🙂

  2. mandolinsummer says:

    My advice? The rest of the world’s sanity is in doubt and it’s not up to you to be their psychologist. Focus on your own sanity by following Austin’s great advice – figure out ways to navigate through your relationships but don’t try to figure out the logic behind them!

  3. List of X says:

    I agree with your advise, but just imagine how easier the world would be if everyone had their personality crossword’s answers on their back….

  4. S3qu3l says:

    As an hermit in my days, “Said by many”. I too, tried to understand those things…
    I totally agree with you, stop trying to “crack the code’. Not because it’s impossible but because it’s useless trying to understand others or rationalize the way they act.. The human mind, a mystery.
    Be yourself, stay true to yourself.. put your efforts into better things.. life is a crossword puzzle..

  5. Teela Hart says:

    I used to get caught up in the “why?” trap. It’s pointless. Great advice Austin.

  6. mandolinsummer says:

    After sleeping in while the bf went out for his run at some ungodly hour like 6, I finally got myself up and motivated to do my morning Pilates and 30 min bike ride. Felt good when I first started being allowed to work out again a couple of months ago and now I just savor doing it for a reasonable amount of time and not beating myself up if I miss a day. Different circs I know but I still feel your pain AND pride. 🙂

  7. “…no one is giving out medals for the war you’re fighting.” I love this line.

  8. Lorra B. says:

    Why oh why would a person want to “figure out” those around us? I’m in a constant state of bewilderment, astonishment, irritation, agony, anger, joy, love, laughter and confusion the way things are…these are the emotions that add sparkle and delight to what would otherwise possibly be mondain and uneventful life if I could figure my husband out, or anyone else for that matter. I love my constant state of confusion! Just sayin!! 🙂

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