I Dream From The Land Down Under

Australia_VPNI’ve always had strange dreams, Modern Philosophers, and they just seem to be crossing over into the realm of straight up freaky lately.

Despite my recent conversations with Becky about the idea of lucid dreaming and the ability to control that about which I dream, I’m simply not able to harness that power.

Instead, I’m having very vivid dreams about my ex-wife again.

Let me make this quite clear, Modern Philosophers: I never think about J, my ex-wife, during my waking hours, and I am not secretly harboring a desire to get back with her.  We have been divorced for a decade now, and I neither miss her, nor long for her.

And yet, she is often cast in the leading lady role in my dreams lately.

These night movies starring J almost always involve romantic moments together or my desire to reconcile with her, and usually take place at NYU or in Brooklyn.

Australian flagLast night’s dream, however, required a passport.  We were on location in the land down under.

Why Australia?

I cannot tell you when was the last time the former penal colony had entered my thoughts.  I haven’t watched a movie set in Australia, gone to the zoo to see kangaroos, or even heard a Men At Work song on the radio.

Despite all this (or the lack of all that!), I dreamed that I had gone to Australia to live with my ex-wife.

She was staying in a dingy hostel in some unknown city.  The room was no larger than my living room at The House on the Hill, looked out on a busy street, and could barely fit more than a bed, a television, and a few random pieces of furniture.

There was no bathroom or kitchen in our room.  We had to share a communal kitchen and bathroom (I really hope those were separate rooms!) with the other guests (prisoners???) in this hostel.

kangarooSince it was J, the tiny room was well decorated with interesting pieces of art.  However, the door had no lock.

When I brought up the lack of a lock, J just laughed it off.  She said it was Australia and everyone in the hostel could be trusted.

I didn’t care what country it was, I just wanted to know that my laptop was safe when I left the room (cell???) to use the can.

J used her charm to make me forget my misgivings about our new accommodations, and told me I shouldn’t have a care in the world since I’d sold The House on the Hill and had enough money to live comfortably without having to work.

She reminded me that it has always been my dream to write full time, and I would finally be able to do that in our quiet, tiny (teeny weeny!) Australian getaway.  J also pointed out that I hadn’t been having any romantic success back in Maine, so it wasn’t like I’d left anything behind when I’d moved across the world to be with her again.

I discovered that it was New Year’s Day when I turned on the television and it broadcast live coverage of the ball drop in Times Square.  Seeing New York on TV made me suddenly homesick, but then again, it was impossible to think of living in NY without having J be a part of those memories.

menI felt trapped, but at the same time, it seemed like this was my destiny.

I’d come full circle in my love life, and was back with the first woman I’d ever truly loved.  I was in a foreign land far away from anyone I knew, but wasn’t that what Maine was when J and I got divorced?

The dream ended with my watching the Times Square ball drop while J got dressed for a day out on the town.

I remember her looking extremely beautiful and thinking to myself that selling the house and running off to Australia to get back together with her might not have been such a bad idea after all.

Why do I keep dreaming about a woman who I have worked so hard to get over and forget?  How come I’m not dreaming about any other exes?  Why is it always J?

And what is the deal with Australia?  I thought maybe the fact that Australia used to be a penal colony and the cramped, cell like feeling of the hostel room could be interpreted that I felt like I was trapped or in jail when I was married.

freddyMaybe I’m dreaming about J to remind me about my past romantic missteps.  Perhaps my subconscious is telling me it’s okay that the dating process isn’t going well right now.  I don’t want to rush into anything, or just settle for the first pretty blonde who smiles at me and wants to be my girlfriend.

Or maybe J is simply my Freddy Krueger.

Any Deep Thoughts on the meaning of this dream from the land down under, Modern Philosophers?

About Austin

Native New Yorker who's fled to the quiet life in Maine. I write movies, root for the Yankees, and shovel lots of snow.
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47 Responses to I Dream From The Land Down Under

  1. jan says:

    Exes always creep into our dreams – your mission, should you accept it, is to creep into theirs… cue the theme from Mission Impossible and are you willing to do your own stunts? Burn this message after receipt…

  2. Phil Taylor says:

    Everything in dreams is symbolic about an aspect of yourself. J represents something and so does Australia and the hostel. I don’t know you or your relationships, so I can only throw some wild guesses out there. You said J was the first woman you loved, but you eventually got divorced, meaning that there was some good and bad in the relationship. In the dream you had J back but with having her back came some baggage, namely Australia and the questionable living conditions. A mixed bag, possibly like the marriage was? Truly we are the best interpreters of our own dreams. I hope my rambling might have been a little helpful.

  3. Josh Wrenn says:

    I think it is a sign that something you are eating isn’t sitting well with you.

  4. Phil Taylor says:

    You indicated that you had no conscious thought or desire to reunite with your ex. The idea of that seems completely foreign to you. Perhaps as foreign as living in Australia.

  5. ksbeth says:

    sounds like you are still trying to work things out. not with your ex, but within yourself.

  6. henriettamross14 says:

    Maybe J is more symbolic of relationships in general, with women or even self and the limitations we create?

  7. I think the ones we fall for the hardest, are the ones that haunt our dreams. Once you give part of your heart away, you never fully get that piece back.

  8. spartacus2030 says:

    Sounds like you felt tied down and cheap in that relationship. And since it took place in un unfamiliar land so far away, you want to get her out of your mind but can’t… Awe Love: ‘Viva La Mor – We die together!’

  9. That’s quite an interesting dream! I had a dream a while ago about an ex that I don’t think of much anymore, and I don’t know why I had the dream. Dreams are funny in that way.

    I wonder why the dream took place in Australia. Maybe it could have something to do with familiar situations (your ex) and unfamiliar situations (the foreign country). Maybe even if the dream was about you getting back together with her, you had to go to a foreign country in order to do so. It seems like usually we can interpret a lot from dreams when we remember how we felt during the dream.

  10. rowanaliya says:

    My guess on the location is you are so sick of winter you’d fly to Australia right now to get away from it. As for why you dream of J, I think that is normal albeit frustrating. We never forget those we have loved and the two of you had planned on a life together. Things may change but all that time you spent together still lives in your brain. Hang in there, you’ll find a new leading lady.

  11. adamjasonp says:

    Maine can feel like a prison, or a foreign land. I think you may have already figured some of the dream out, there…but I’m no dream specialist, so I don’t really know.

  12. floridaborne says:

    What an amazing dream! So much rich detail about your life with J.

    When you have a theme in your dreams that keeps haunting you, your subconscious mind is trying to tell you something important (this isn’t the first dream you’ve had lately with J in it). THe dream may not have as much to do with feelings for the person as much as a warning about traits. (possibly a warning away from getting involved with someone just like her?) For example, you’re in a strange place, living in inadequate housing that has no locks, and the person you’re with doesn’t seem to care about your value (after all, you write movie scripts on your computer and this is a most important part of your life).

    As an example of choosing the same type of person over and over again. Every one of the loves in my life had similar attributes: they had a disorder of one sort of another (alcoholism or diabetes or a form of dystrophy). Each of them had controlling personalities.

    Perhaps you could ask yourself what attributes J has that could possibly destroy your relationship with an new love, as well as what ways you reacted to her that contributed to the demise of your marriage?

  13. D. Parker says:

    I can never figure out what dreams mean, apparently they’re our minds way of processing information from each day. I think you had too much to dream last night and have a dream hangover. Have some Snapple. Go for a run. 🙂
    And now I have Men At Work in my head…kidding, they’ve been there for over 30 years. 🙂

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