Play Me Out, Sam

Life, death, coping with loss, funerals, philosophy, Modern PhilosopherI found out on Tuesday that my stepbrother had died, Modern Philosophers, and it’s led to a complicated week.

Now that Friday is finally here, my thoughts are still a jumbled mess and sorting them out seems impossible.

I hope the quiet and solitude of the weekend allows me some time to finally come to terms with all the Deep Thoughts swimming around in my head.

I thought the Friday Night Think Tank would be the perfect place to get me started on my quest to make sense of everything.

With that in mind, I’ve selected a topic that might begin the healing process.  Sorry if it’s a little morbid, but it’s what’s on my mind at the moment.

This week’s topic: What song do you want played at your funeral?

Since we likely won’t get a chance to personally say goodbye to everyone when we die, the song we choose for our funeral is probably the best way to leave a parting message for those who cared about us.

I’ve never thought about this before, but after writing a post earlier in the week about how my stepbrother introduced me to Bruce Springsteen, music has been on my mind.

Once I settled on this as our Think Tank topic, I decided to have some fun with it.  After all, we only die once.

Life, death, coping with loss, funerals, philosophy, Modern PhilosopherNow I know for sure that I want The Imperial March from Star Wars played at the beginning of the ceremony.  I can’t remember if they carry the casket down the aisle to the altar at the start of a funeral, but I want that done at mine as the music every Star Wars fan associates with Darth Vader blasts through the church.

I’m already dead, so why not go out like a bad ass?  From that moment on, every time someone at my funeral watches Star Wars, they will remember me.  I can’t think of a more fitting tribute for this Star Wars geek.

Of course, it might seem inappropriate to some, but I’ve never been big on going to church and God can count it as a victory that I’m even agreeing to a funeral.  The least everyone can do is look the other way at my having a little fun during my final visit.

While the Imperial March is there more to lighten the mood and remind those I’ve left behind that I was a bit of a rebel and an oddball, I do want a more fitting song played later in the ceremony.

Whenever it gets really somber and it’s obvious that I’m not going to pop up out of the casket and tell everyone it’s been a cruel hoax, I’d like them to play my favorite Bruce Springsteen song.  Thunder Road is about leaving an unfulfilling life behind and chasing after your dreams.

Life, death, coping with loss, funerals, philosophy, Modern PhilosopherI’d say that’s the perfect song for my final farewell to the world.

I’m pretty sure that Bruce won’t be available to perform live, so perhaps someone can just pop my Born To Run CD in a boom box and then hold it high above his head, Lloyd Dobler style.

Might as well give Say Anything a shout out, too, as it is a great flick and a personal fave.

When the mass is over and they are carrying my casket down the aisle to the awaiting hearse, I want the Star Wars Theme blasted loud enough to be heard by those mourning my death in a galaxy far, far away.

In case I never put these wishes down in an official legal document, I need at least one of you to bring this post to the attention of whoever plans my funeral.

If you could make sure that these songs are played at my last hurrah, I would be forever grateful, Modern Philosophers.  Now tell me what song you’d like played at your funeral, and I’ll do my best to make sure it happens…

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About Austin

Native New Yorker who's fled to the quiet life in Maine. I write movies, root for the Yankees, and shovel lots of snow.
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44 Responses to Play Me Out, Sam

  1. Ficklefifty says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss. I haven’t really thought of a funeral song. I just wanna be made into fertilizer and dumped under a big oak tree. Maybe some old Gordon Lightfoot would be nice.

  2. Sorry. Loss does make you think about mortality. I’ve never thought about a song for my funeral. I’m going to give that some thought. But, I have told everyone that I know that I want absolutely NO flowers, but everyone should bring chocolate cake, cup cakes, brownies, cookies, a chocolate fountain, and have a celebration of my life. I always baked these things to share with friends and family. Of course, there should be drinking Black Russians, my Friday night tradition. I’ll think about my song.
    I hope your sad thoughts brighten soon.

  3. ksbeth says:

    i’m so sorry for your loss. i have thought about my music, actually.

  4. Sorry to hear about your brother.
    Me, I’d like Into the West by Annie Lennox from the Lord of the Rings played at my funeral.

  5. I’m so sorry for your loss. Before my mum died, she was very particular about the songs and hymns she wanted for her funeral. In the end she chose Eva Cassidy’s Songbird. My eldest Sprog has insisted on making sure I have a special song for my funeral. His first choice is, Ding Dong The Witch Is Dead from the wizard of oz. Second choice is, Crlebrate by Cool and the Gang. Don’t know why, but I’m getting a weird vibe from him! 🤣

  6. Sorry to hear about your step-brother Austin. It’s never easy for the ones that are left behind. My condolences.
    The imperial march does make a good funeral song!.

  7. grannyK says:

    very sorry for your loss

  8. Thinking of you and your family with the death of your step-brother (my guy always says, “Why do people say sorry you ‘lost’ your friend, father, brother, etc.?” He’s not lost, he’s dead. My mom is in hospice care, and she has told me for years that she wants “On Eagle’s Wings” played/sung during her funeral. My dad was a huge jazz fan, and he requested “When the Saints Come Marching In” for his (I think for back in his day, that song was like a Bruce Springsteen song to you now). Me? “Good Morning Starshine” for sure, and the Beatles song “In My Life” says it all.

  9. Jo (Fallen Angel) says:

    What a nice post. I dont think it sombre at all, but then death is something I’m a bit preoccupied with. I love the track Heavenfaced by The National because it contains lyrics which reflect some of my beliefs relating to death.

    Also, I love ELO so I might have to have Mister Blue Sky played at some point. Either way, Id like it to be a celebration rather than a sombre affair.

    Sorry for your loss. Grief brings up all sorts of emotions which can change by the hour. Give yourself time. There is no limit.

  10. April Munday says:

    I’m sorry to hear about your step-brother. The death of someone close to us does make us think about our own mortality. I was involved in choosing music for a funeral last month and, you’re right, it’s much easier if the person chooses their own music in advance. I haven’t given a lot of thought to mine, but a movement from a Bach cello sonata would be very pleasing.

  11. lindahobden says:

    My husband’s grandma who died last October aged 96 had Snow Patrol …. her father died in February and he had I’ll Remember You by Elvis Presley … although I think my mum picked that rather than my dad. My nan had the Old Rugged Cross; a friend who died in 1984 aged 19 had Careless Whispers. I think I would like my wedding song as mine: I Don’t Want To Miss A Thing by Aerosmith….

  12. Gail Kaufman says:

    “I Hope You Dance” by Lee Ann Womack” – I want to be remembered as that kind of mom.

  13. I did hear of one guy playing “Highway to Hell” by AC DC…..My son says “Happy” by Pharrell Williams. But I think I’d go for “Gone Too Soon” by Simple Plan.

  14. sharonduerst says:

    The passing of anything in our lives throws us for a time into reflection…I’ve thought about my own passing and what I would want, especially the music! But my ideas change constantly! I hope you find comfort for your loss and allow as much time and fluctuations as needed!

  15. Skipah says:

    I’ll probably be buried to the song Highway to Hell knowing my luck.

  16. So sorry for your loss. Sending virtual hugs and comfort your way.

  17. floridaborne says:

    I cant decide between “Send in the Clowns” or “Don’t worry, be happy.”

  18. . I hope you find comfort for your loss and allow as much time and fluctuations as needed!

  19. . I’ll have to look up that song…

  20. . The passing of anything in our lives throws us for a time into reflection…I’ve thought about my own passing and what I would want, especially the music!

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