Every so often, Modern Philosophers, I get bored with being a quirky, reclusive, introvert, so I put on my social butterfly costume and mingle with other people.
This generally leads to my being asked the inevitable…
What are you doing this weekend?
Apparently, social people use this question as a test to see if you are really one of them. Then they use your answer to decide if you’re the sort of person who gets to join their clan and engage in merriment and shenanigans on a regular basis. A party people pop quiz so to speak.
At least that’s how I think it works.
I’m not sure, though, since I’m a quirky, reclusive, introvert.
Whenever someone asks me how I plan to spend the weekend, my eyes light up with excitement as I quickly share my To Do List for a perfect Saturday and Sunday…
Run, read, write, relax, recover, and recharge.
Maybe I have a thing for alliteration. Perhaps I’m just a simple guy.
Or, it could just be that I know how to have a kick ass weekend.
I’m going to be honest, after a long, grueling work week catering to the needs of others, I want to get away from people and spend some quiet time doing things that bring me joy.
If looking forward to reading a good book, getting some exercise, and finally spending some time doing the thing I love, aka writing, makes me a weirdo introvert who’s never going to find someone because all I ever do is hide out all by myself, then so be it.
No one’s paying me for those hours, so I get to decide how they are spent.
For the record, I don’t see it as hiding out from the world and purposely sabotaging my quest to find true love. It is simply much needed me time.
If I’m ever going to be the kind of person who turns on the charm and socializes on a regular basis, then I need my weekends to build myself back up after being besieged and belittled all week.
Life knows how to deliver a beating without leaving any marks that you can report to the authorities. So you’ve got to take care of yourself and unplug from the chaos whenever you have the opportunity.
Sure, I miss waking up next to someone and knowing that I’m loved, but there’s also something to be said for waking up alone, being able to stretch out across the big bed, and know that no one has any say over how I’m going to spend my day.
By kicking off the day with a run, I get my blood flowing, feel good about how I’ve decided to focus on taking better care of myself, and can use the time on the road to plot out whatever writing I plan to do for the day.
Sometimes, when I am out doing something healthy all by my lonesome, I run into a pretty neighbor, who insists on sending me home with homemade baked goods. In fact, such a thing happened to me just this afternoon…
Thank you, Joy, for the yummy cake. I cannot wait to enjoy it tonight when I’m curled up on the couch watching the movie of my choice.
If you don’t see that as a perfect Saturday night, then maybe you’re the quirky oddball!
So I guess what I’m trying to say here, Modern Philosophers, is that it’s okay to be you.
Don’t let society pressure you into thinking you need to be someone you’re not just so you’ll fit in better with the other bees in the hive.
Party people can be the life of the party. That’s their right, and I like knowing that they are out there blowing off some steam after a tough week.
I’m content being the wallflower who doesn’t wander too far from the punch bowl. After all, I need to keep hydrated for my runs. Plus, the vantage point allows me to better observe the world around me, so I can better portray it in my stories.
Furthermore, if I keep an eye on what’s going on around me, it lessens the chances of life sneaking up on me to kick me in the ass when I least expect it.
When I’m ready, and with a little help from the Fates, I will finally find that special someone. When I do, I will work up the courage to ask her…
What are you doing this weekend?
And hopefully, her plans will be to spend some time with me…
I soooooo get where you are coming from! I love your metaphor of the weekdays/life assaulting you without leaving a mark…just brilliant and charming and amusing…also, given the nature of my job and personality, I, too, need weekend/down-time for me…time to rejuvenate and replenish after offering intense levels of support. Great post, thanks for sharing…enjoy your treat and movie 🙂
Thank you. So glad you enjoyed it. 🙂
Same as you and topping up my Pinterest account…soooo good yes:)
I feel like I haven’t heard from you in forever!
Been reading you. Just been doing lotsa crazy shift work. Still loving your stuff
That is good to know. Thank you!
your plan is sure to lead to a happy ending for two. keep on being you.
That certainly would be nice… 🙂
You’re totally doing it right by doing what you love. It’s your time. (Well, it’s technically your time all the time, but we make choices to pay our bills.) Some people love the night life; others like to stay in. No big deal. I think staying at home is perfect, unless I have the option to hike or wander the beach. I mean, go out to buy groceries and wine/beer/snapple and a new book by all means. But then cozy up at home and just be. Oh man, it’s the best feeling in the world. I love, love, love my lovely home. We’re so blessed that we have the greatest spots in which to recharge our batteries.
Yes, we are lucky that way. We do seem to have so much in common, Masked Avenger. 🙂
Your list is perfect. I would add SNL, wine 🍷 and social media. Ppl view me as a party person. They are incorrect. I truly love doing what you do all the time. As a retiree folks expect me to be incredibly busy with all sorts of activities. They especially admire volunteer work. I even made a book where I listed what I do each day illustrated by photos. I would hand it to whomever questioned my busy-ness. It took some of my younger, still working friends to ensure me I did not have to defend my days. Now I say I am blogging and watching the latest 48 Hours about murdering a spouse, This shuts them up. Be you!
SNL is definitely on my list. I DVR it and then watch it with breakfast after my run. Just be you and enjoy your weekend however you please!
Yes, good idea. I usually watch the highlights again on YouTube on Sunday.
Watching it on DVR allows me to FF through the sketches that are going nowhere. 🙂
I like quiet weekends too: leisurely errands, cooking, reading, writing, wine, movies, and catching up on whatever. There’s definitely much to be said for low key.
Great minds think alike…
As a business owner,all time is my time. Life’s short,spend it doing what you like with whom you like.
I am with you on protecting quite time and if that involves some alone time, all the better. I’m fortunate I have cut back my work schedule to only two days/week and instead of making me feel like spending more time socializing, I’m even more protective of my down time. Nothing I like better than a day at home, exercising when I want to, writing for minutes, editing for hours. Ahhhh! I hope you find another kindred soul who accepts your lifestyle. But glad you enjoy your life now instead of waiting for someone else to make it complete.
Your plan is best for you, yes, Austin!